Facebook 101

Okay, people… it is necessary that I reach out to Facebook users and give them some basic information, 101 information if you will, about Facebook pages and content. For non-sales groups, you do not have to “like” a page in order to see its content. For example, if your friend posted a meme from, say, Mommy Has a Potty Mouth, you do not have to “like” the Mommy Has a Potty Mouth page, but rather can go to and peruse the page or, alternatively, simply admire the meme on your friend’s page. If, however, you decide that you may want to “like” the page, it may be helpful to scroll down on the page and read previous posts and memes from the page to ensure that you are comfortable with the content. Alternatively, you can simply read the name of the page, in this case Mommy Has a Potty Mouth, and determine therefrom whether the content is something that may be interesting to you. If you do “like” a page and later determine that you are offended by or for any reason do not actually like the page, you can simply “unlike” the page in the same way you “liked” the page to begin with. What you should not do, however, is “like” a page, find it offensive and then complain to Facebook that you are offended, causing administrators to be blocked and/or pages to be removed. Quit being such a dick to the rest of us, who continue to find the offensive material, well, not so offensive.

Similarly, Facebook does not require you to be added to groups, such as those which allow members to interact or sell items, etc. There may even be a group, perhaps named Sell & Say Whatever You Want, which allows both. If you decide that you can’t live without a new iPhone or don’t want to pay full price for that adorable little coat for your dog, then go ahead and join the group. If, however, you are perusing said site for that adorable little coat and happen upon a post that is neither directed toward you nor of any interest to you, there is absolutely no reason to stop and make some ridiculous comment to the original poster or any subsequent poster. I know this may come as a surprise, but you can JUST MOVE ON! Don’t stop, don’t read, don’t respond, don’t…. anything! Don’t be such an asshat. Just move on so those of us who may actually be entertained and/or interested in the group/comment/post/etc. can be so entertained and/or interested.

This concludes today’s lesson of Facebook 101. Those to whom this is not directed will likely find it entertaining while those of whom it is will likely (a) not realize it is actually directed to them, or (b) completely ignore the entire rant and post something ridiculous in response. Either way, carry on.


Ohio Woman Sue Sperm Bank After Racial Mix-Up


Tonight I read an article about an Ohio woman who is suing the sperm bank for mixing up her sperm order and thus impregnating her with an embryo from an black donor father. According to the article, the mother is suing to “force (them) the Bank to change the policies that led to the mix-up and to obtain funds her family needs to receive ongoing counseling and relocate to a more diverse community.” I get it. I mean, this woman requested sperm from a blond-haired, blue-eyed donor and instead she received the sperm of a dark-eyed, dark-skinned donor. She lives in a lily white community (97%) and, again according to the article, “suffers from ‘stress and anxiety’ just thinking of Payton having to attend an all-white school and being ‘stigmatized or unrecognized.'” What mother would want that for her child? She should do everything in her power to ensure that this type of mix-up does not happen to another person. If you are running a sperm bank, isn’t it your #1 priority to give the person the, uhm, donation they requested? HOWEVER, this mom chose insemination with her female partner. Now, if you know me at all, you know I have nothing against same sex couples. I have many gay and lesbian friends, and I love and respect them all. I believe they should all have the opportunity to have children if they choose. I believe same sex marriage should be legal in all 50 states immediately and that any hate or discrimination against same sex couples is outrageous… having said that, in this case it is an issue for me. Not because these two women choose to be together, or chose to have a child together, but because they are making the deal out of this child being half black and using potential racial discrimination as a reason to require relocation from the sperm bank. They admittedly live in a very small community that, according to the article, “Uniontown is a wonderful town, wonderful people, but there are no biracial children and no mixed marriages.” Well, how many lesbian couples do you think there are in said small town? Well, luckily I have the internet at my disposal and, according to city-data.com (I know, I know, maybe not the most reliable, but it’s what I’m working with right now…), the likely number of lesbian couples is 0.3%. So, you are worried that your child may be discriminated against because she is not white, but not because she has two moms? Again, I will say the child should not be discriminated for being not white OR for having two moms. I’m just saying that when these moms say they love their child unconditionally and simply worry about discrimination based upon the color of her skin, they are perpetuating discrimination themselves. So, I say to these moms… congratulations on your beautiful baby girl… love her, cherish her, and teach her that discrimination happens for many different reasons and rather than move her to “protect” her from discrimination you should seek to educate a small town in Ohio (which is seemingly fairly liberal at almost 50/50 Republican/Democrat (again according to city-data.com)) that a beautiful biracial girl being raised by her two moms is America in 2014. End of Rant


Quitting Smoking – Day 1

I have decided to quit smoking.  Just now, at 9:22 p.m. on Wednesday, June 11, 2014, I have made this decision.  Not that I haven’t thought about it every day over the past 3 years since I started smoking.  Well, I mean started smoking again.  I quit for four years before that.  My last cigarette was April 2, 2007.  It was just before my first granddaughter was born, and I decided to give her something I never gave my own kids, and that was a smoke free home.  Not that it was a walk in the park or anything, but quitting that time wasn’t so bad.  In September 2009, my mom was diagnosed with cancer.  She had several length surgeries to have her jaw removed, and eventually some lymph nodes and other head stuff.  Throughout all of her cancer and surgeries, I continued to be smoke free.  When she went on hospice I thought I could handle a couple of cigars.  On the day she died, June 26, 2011, her 65th birthday, she died, and I immediately smoked a cigarette… and I haven’t stopped since.  So, back to now… I just decided I’m ready to quit again.  Just now, in the past 30 minutes, I have decided to quit smoking.  My daughter is pregnant with my third granddaughter, and I acknowledge that the younger 2 will not have the smoke free grandma that the older one had, if only for awhile.  And I’m scared to death.  Of failure… or success.  But right now, right this second, I want to quit… and that’s all I can do for now. 


Happiness is the Key…

We learned from The Story Stuff that consumption is the golden arrow of the materials economy; that the primary way our value is measured and demonstrated is by our consumption.  According to The Story of Stuff, consumption was the answer to a sluggish economy after World War II.  According to analyst Victor Lebow, “Our enormously productive economy… demands that we make consumption our way of life, that we convert the buying and use of goods into rituals, that we seek our spiritual satisfaction, our ego satisfaction, in consumption… we need things consumed, burned up, replaced and discarded at an ever-accelerating rate.” 

What else happened around 1950?  At a time when the government said that “The American economy’s ultimate purpose is to produce more consumer goods,” new technology was introduced in mass in America… the television.  At a time when Americans were being encouraged to consume (and thus spend), television, and advertisement, were prevalent in most American households.  Think of the commercials we see every day, each one telling us that buying X, Y or Z will make us… happy.  Yes, according to every single advertisement our happiness is based upon our buying their product.  If that were true, the happiness of Americans would have increased exponentially since the 1950s.  If only there were a way too measure happiness to see if that were true…. Oh wait, happiness has been measured through surveys asking, simply, “Are you happy,” and since happiness peaked in 1956, it has steadily declined since.  Also declining since the 1950s has been the number of close friends a person has, how likely we are to eat meals with friends, family and neighbors, stewardship, resourcefulness and thrift. 

So, what is happiness?  Is it really having more?  Is it really that he (or she) with the most toys wins?  Or is it possible, just possible that we could find happiness in other ways?  Through reconnecting with our neighbors and our communities?  Through giving back instead of always taking?  Through conservation?  What if a change in thought on what it means to be “ecological” was less about less and more about more?  Or what if “more” really refers to what we give, and thus what we receive in return?  What if community reconnection would have a positive impact not only on ecology, but on our overall happiness?  Wow, that would be something, wouldn’t it?  The problem is, getting people to believe it and to take steps to change it.   


Cradle to Cradle

The Cradle to Cradle design was created by William McDonough in an effort to change the way people think… rather than concentrate on how humans negatively impact the ecosystem, we should instead concentrate on whether humans can create abundance.  Why do we need to do this?  Because there was 6 times as much plastic as plankton and the ocean was referred to as “kind of like a giant toilet that doesn’t flush.”  Because toys that we allow our children to put in their mouths have warnings of cancer risks.  Because the possibilities of change are available and accessible, if humans allow themselves to have a vision. 

Humans currently have a cradle to grave mentality.  We make it, we buy it, we throw it away.  But what if we could envision the concept of cradle to cradle?  We make it, we buy it, we recycle it, creating a cycle of sustainability?  The concept of Cradle to Cradle looks at biology, which without humans has flourished for millions of years, and follow its lead.  This allows humans to continue to take from the earth, but provides a way to take less, to eliminate waste, and to give back. 

I found chapters 4 and 5 in The Sustainability Revolution interesting after watching Cradle to Cradle.  The principles that have been put in place for industry change by various companies are surface principles.  They set out what concerned citizens and grassroots groups want to hear.  For example, American Petroleum Institute principles includes a provision to “make safety, health and environmental considerations a priority in our planning and our development of new products and processes.”  While certainly a noble sounding goal, what does that even mean?  Should that have been a principle to begin with?  What if the principles of all of the companies was the same as the goal of Cradle to Cradle… “a delightfully diverse, safe, health and just world, with clean air, water, soil and power – economically, equitably, ecologically and elegantly enjoyed.”  Not limitations, but abundance. 


School Lunch Reform… Not Just An Answer to a Food Problem

As we contemplate our concerns about the many issues in the world, we tend to think of them as separate demons.  Food problems, education problems, employment problems, crime problems… the list goes on and on.  The problem is that they are not at all separate, but completely interrelated.  As I look at the reform proposed by the Oakland Unified School District (the “OUSD”) Feasibility Study (the “Study), I do not see it as a solution to the school lunch problem; I see a solution to a community problem. 

Let’s look at Oakland, California.  According to the Bay Area Census for 2010, the home ownership rate is 41% compared to 59% rental property.  The median household income is $40,000.  The poverty rate is 19.4%.  Less than half of the population has greater than a high school education. The Uniform Crime Report for 2012 provides that the crime rate in Oakland was 2,018 violent crimes per 100,000 (for some frame of reference, the violent crime rate for Lincoln (population 264,175) was 397 per 100,000 and for Omaha (population 394,487) was 594 per 100,000).  According to the Study, the OUSD serves 6.6 million meals per year to students, of which 70% of said students are eligible for free and reduced meals. 

So, how do any of these things relate to transformations in school lunch programs?  Absolutely everything.  If (or, optimistically, when) these reforms become reality, the effects on the community could be life changing.  The goals of the Strategic Plan are to develop social, emotional and physical health, ensure high-quality instructional core, and create equitable opportunities for learning.  To facilitate these goals, the Study provides for gardens for each school, Central Commissary that would service all 89 kitchens in the OUSD, provide adequate kitchens in each OUSD kitchen, and provide School-Community Kitchens that would serve the students during the day and the community in the evening with hunger alleviation, vocational training, cooking classes and community events. 

Food problems are addressed in multiple ways.  Healthy food options are provided not only to students, but to entire families who are facing food scarcity.  As families learn about and are given access to healthy foods, food changes begin to take place within the home.  As families begin to provide healthier food options within the home, children are better able to learn and participate at school.  As food problems are addressed within the school, educational problems begin to be addressed as well.  The schools these kids attend offer alternative, hands-on methods of learning by incorporating garden upkeep and cooking (which address health, science, math, reading and physical activity) and cooperation and collaboration (which address social relationships).  Students who suffer from various behavioral and learning deficits may be better served through these alternative learning opportunities than in conventional classrooms.  Access to and education regarding food will provide these students with marketable life skills that are not otherwise learned in conventional classrooms. As these students become healthier, they are better able to learn.  As they learn more, they take pride in their school, their community, and themselves.  As they become truly excited about learning, they carry that excitement and pride home, potentially expanding family involvement, which will trickle out the community.  In addition, they become excited about education itself.  As that excitement grows, they set goals to graduate from high school.  The number of students graduating rises above the current dismal rate less than fifty percent.  Employment problems are addressed for the parents as job opportunities become available within the school system, and later as these students graduate from high school and begin to contribute to the community.  As they are now working within their community, they contribute to the economy.  As they contribute to the economy, home ownership rises, which has a huge impact on community stability.  As home ownership rises, people begin to take pride in their neighborhoods and crime rates decline.  As the community begins to stabilize and these students begin to age and have children, they have been provided the tools with which to better care for their children beginning at conception (eating healthy and having the economic means to care for their children).

There are many obstacles that face these programs.  These programs often begin in areas with extremely low socio-economic status (such as Oakland), where resources are scarce.  In the Oakland Study, the project estimated cost is almost $26 million, which does not include additional staffing costs and ongoing operating expenses.  Potential sources for funding, such as local support, grants and philanthropic programs, would help alleviate some of these costs.  Even without this funding, the long-term gains within the community far outweigh the costs associated therewith.  Some studies suggest a cost-benefit ratio of $7.00 for every $1 spent on early childhood education.  While these studies are based on early childhood education, imagine what the return would be for students who receive not only early childhood education, but hands-on, skill-based, social-based curricula that involve not only the children, but the entire community. 

To transform school lunch from a problem to be solved, we need to teach these kids that feeding them quickly and cheaply for return to the classroom is not the answer.  Rather, we need to teach them that some things take time and money (teaching patience and budgeting) and that the return to a classroom that involves gardens, food, friends, alternative learning methods that level the learning field for students of all learning abilities while still incorporating math, reading, health, science and physical activity, may not be such a bad thing after all.

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Liberating Ideas

In chapter 11 of Hope’s Edge, Lappe and Lappe propose Five Liberating Ideas Helping Us Find Our Way, which include: (1) Scrapping the Scarcity Scare, Realizing Abundance; (2) Laughing at the Caricature, Listening to Ourselves; (3) Putting Tools in Their Place, Tapping the Savvy of Citizens; (4) Discarding Dissection, Solving for Pattern; and (5) Busting Free From “isms,” Creating the Path as We Walk. The purpose of these Liberating Ideas is to “reveal the falsity of its thought traps… giving us something else to believe in” (Lappe & Lappe, 2003, p. 282). The Liberating Idea that I chose to focus on is Scrapping the Scarcity Scare, Realizing Abundance.

 As I was reading about What Nature Has to Teach, I came across a sentence that I found quite compelling – “We’re told, for example, that there’s really no nutritional advantage to food grown without chemicals” (p. 287). What???? Food grown WITHOUT chemicals has no nutritional value? In light of the fact that chemicals have only been used for the past 100 years or so (and many not until the 1940s and 1950s), how could anyone believe this to be true? It should not take stories of Iowa farmers whose organically grown corn is more extensive than that of his neighbors, or mice rejecting corn grown with chemicals or Archaea growing in abundance in organic soils for us to realize that this is ridiculous. Rather, we should rely on the fact that people have successfully grown food without chemicals for all but the most recent history. Traditionally, people took what they needed from the earth while respecting the earth from which it came. To travel to the edge of possibility, we need to retrain our thinking to this mentality. We need to realize that not every technological advancement is a good thing. I think about this every time I read one of the ever growing articles/blogs about the correlation between vaccinations and autism. Even though vaccinations have been given for a couple of hundred years, the relative recent occurrence of autism is blamed on vaccinations. Why not on the chemicals which have been used in food production in the past 75 years? In my opinion, this would certainly qualify as a “falsity of thought traps” in that we have been convinced that our food is safe. Thankfully, more and more studies are being done not only on the chemicals, but their impact on food, groundwater, plant and animal life, and people.